Debbie’s Dialogue (A Cup Of Tear Water Tea)

Years ago I read a story to my daughter about an owl who wanted to make tea. His special tea was made out of tears. It was salty and he had perfected it over the years. His challenge was to make enough tears to fill his pot. To accomplish this task he had to think of things that made him sad, then the tears would flow and he could make his tea. Each heart wrenching thought that would enter his mind was verbalized out loud with a s sob that produced a tear. Each new refrain would be more woeful and soon a salty path was traveling down his cheeks in rapid succession. When his pot was filled completely he would wipe his face, sniffle and grin in delicious contentment that his work was finished and he could once again enjoy the bounty of life he had created. This concept was absorbed by my daughter and whenever life caused her distress I would announce that she was having a Tear Water Tea Day. I find myself in grief filled situations where I add one sad lament after another to fill my cup of tears. Each thought is a sad accounting of regret building atop of each other to blend into a STORY. Is that story something that I produced to add to my victim hood or a long list of complaints I have forgotten to discard after many years of crying about them? I know for my child it was a way to string sorrows together to bring then into a sentence of “Why is this happening to me?” As an adult I find myself tearfully expressing my woes together into a pitiful story until I hear a voice shout— “JUST THE FACTS PLEASE”  There is no more room in my cup for tears, it is time to be accountable for the sadness that attracts itself to me. I am responsible for the choices I make and I can remember to STOP, BREATHE, AND MAKE ANOTHER CHOICE!

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Do You Have An Answer For Me?

Do you ever sit with a question and want it answered immediately? I asked the Universe a simple request to wash away the heaviness I was overcome with. I  contemplated on the exact wording and to bring about a revelation that I could live with and bring peace to my soul.  I took three books and decided to experiment with an idea. If an answer was forthcoming possibly it would be a passage from each author that I had picked randomly. I opened “Excuses Begone” by Wayne Dyer and chose a line that spoke to me.

“Do something every day to keep the awakened God within from falling back asleep.”

I opened a page from “The Dance” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer and listened to my hearts response.

“Tell me a story of who you are and see who I an in the stories I am living and together we will remember that each one of us always has a choice.”

The last book “The Dark Night of The Soul” by Thomas Moore spoke to me through the shadowed space I was existing in and brought light.

“Your dark night may make your familiar world inaccessible, but it always puts you in touch with an unfamiliar realm, perhaps a new kind of  experience altogether and it may make you feel you are living in between two places, the known and unknown. You are on a threshold”

I was amazed how it all tied into each other and the answer became evident for me. The Universe graced me with Its wisdom and understanding dawned on me bringing warmth and recognition. The question had been answered even before it was uttered. I was guided and the footsteps led me to a way of living that had escaped me and I was brought back to remembrance.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Tapestry

Trials, tribulations, relationships…

Have made me strong-

Life evolved from chaos to choice…

A common thread runs through the fabric of my existence-

It is a tapestry of creative word…

Syllables take meaning in thought-

Finding pen to express as emotion…

It has given me voice-

An ache inside urges a new direction…

A clean slate to write on-

I have surrendered to the past …

Finding release in forgiveness-

The road had its twists, turns, detours…

Driving forward escape explored new signs-

They projected a new beginning…

In gratitude I accept all the gifts-

They brought surprise, fear, grief, acceptance…

To each one I say “Thank you”

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Debbie’s Dialogue

Is it wise to give unsolicited advice? Is it ego directing my words imparting them to the unaware? I find myself in a lofty position of righteousness counseling from a place of  knowledge. Just because I have faced challenges in my life and found solutions does not give me permission to offer unless asked. I realized that people will complain and tell their story to be heard. I have the choice to respond or not. What has worked for me may not work for them. I realized that all of us have to find our own way in life and we are the director and actor in it. When someone comes to me and asks for feedback I can know the truth for them and be an attentive listener. The answers to our situations are within us. It takes courage to face the fear and answer what is calling us to look at. When asked I will offer my assistance. I will continue to lead my life as an example of what works for me.  In self-examination I recall the importance of acceptance and non-judgment and allow others to come to a conscious decision about their lives and the direction it is taking.

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Thought of the Day

When you are in the midst of conversation with others how do you participate? If someone is complaining do you agree about the situation or do you quietly non participate? When the energy around you is filled with negative  people do you retreat into yourself, walk away or voice your opinion edging into negativity also? When someone gossips do you participate by joining in or do you become passive and silent? These are questions to consider on how we participate in energies that take from us instead of adding to us. It is difficult to speak your truth when others think you are arrogant or don’t understand the situation. My invitation for you is to take a stand and allow yourself the opportunity to speak for something instead of against something. “Gossip is poison and I don’t participate in it.” Instead of complaining can you tell me something you are grateful for?” “What is the gift in this challenge?” We always have a choice; what will your choice be today?

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